Winning the love of your life, and planning your future can make you feel like a million dollars, just look at Phil Costa, and Hulk Hogan's daughter Brooke Hogan, or Jessica Simpson and Eric Johnson. But what happens when you break up?
Most
guys think the perfect answer, after a breakup, is to apologize to the girl who
got away. Some of them have a hard time understanding why this doesn't work -
or in some cases makes her even angrier than she was initially. Apologizing is
almost always the wrong answer. Here are just a few of the reasons how to win a girl back and why.
Apologizing
is a Sign of Weakness
Fans
of the hit television show on CBS have heard this a time or two throughout its
many seasons on the air. It's one of Gibbs' favorite sayings. But, it is a sign
of being on the weak end of the argument. You never want to broach an argument
from a weaker position.
Apologies
Come Across as Insincere
Chances
are good that you've apologized in the past. Perhaps, you've even apologized
for the very things she says are the problems in your relationship. Apologies,
without action, do not bring about a sufficient result to make her happy. While
you don't have to change everything about who you are, sometimes, you're going
to have to make some adjustments to your nature in order to keep her happy and
make her FEEL loved by you.
Apologies
aren't Specific Enough
Apologizing
for "whatever you did to make her leave" isn't going to cut it. She
needs to hear the specific reason why you're apologizing. She wants you to
acknowledge that you've hurt, neglected, ignored, cheated, or whatever it is
that you've done. She wants to know that you understand it's wrong. Problem is,
she doesn't always tell you what you did. Which leads to the next reason it's a
bad idea to apologize when your girlfriend leaves.
It's
Too Easy to Apologize for the Wrong Thing
The
last thing you want to do is add fuel to the fire by apologizing for something
you think she found out about, while failing to apologize to the thing that's
really set her off. Talk about digging in deeper!
The
bottom line, when it comes to apologies, is that there are many more ways to
get it wrong than there are to get it right. If you feel you must apologize,
it's best to do it in writing and follow these simple rules.
1) Be specific.
2) Make your apology brief.
3) Keep it simple.
Putting
it in writing prevents a fight, gives her time to think it over, and provides a
neutral setting where she can process the apology and what it may mean for your
collective futures.
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