Rihanna’s may
still be feuding with Chris Brown using tweet – but I am sure like anyone if
you came face to face with your ex you would get the wind knocked out of your
sails.
So
how are you dealing with the break up?
You
had a few rough days, weeks, maybe even months. But, you finally started
getting back out there in the real world.
You're
hitting the town with your friends. You're working out at the gym. And you're
trying like mad to at least look like you're getting on with your life - no
matter how much you want her back.
You're
doing good. You're looking good. Girls are starting to smile and flirt with
you. You're Superman.
Then
BAM!
Out
of the blue, she walks into the room and it feels like you've been hit in the
gut with a kryptonite fist.
Your
mouth gets dry. Your palms get sweaty. Your tongue suddenly feels like it
weighs a thousand pounds and you're caught between a sudden overwhelming urge
to flee and a simultaneous but equally powerful urge to beg her to take you
back.
What
do you do?
You
say something about how it's great to see her and make a hasty retreat.
It's
only after you're out of her presence that you begin to think of all the things
you could have, should have, or would have said if you'd been able to think
clearly at the time.
Then
you engage in a fantasy replay of how things would have shaken out if you'd
just been able to speak. But, wouldn't it be nice if you could think of these things ahead of time and have
a good idea of what to say to her when the moment arrives?
Believe
me it would! Especially if you're interested in getting her back.
Stop
getting sucker punched by her presence. Take back the power and let her see you
in a new light. You can control the conversation and how it plays out as long
as you plan ahead for when that moment comes.
I'm
not talking about arranging an "accidental" meeting. That's not the
right idea in this situation. But, you do want to have a plan for what you'll
say to her when your paths do cross so that you don't look like you're either
avoiding her, running away from her, or angry with her for the breakup.
Time
heals a lot of old wounds. You might be surprised to discover that she's
probably just as nervous about the encounter as you are - even though she's the
one who broke up with you.
So
what should you say?
1) Keep it short.
2) Keep it light.
3) Avoid bringing up the past - leave that
to her.
Keep
these things in mind. Write a script for yourself. Memorize the script.
Practice it in the mirror. Do whatever you have to do so that it's second
nature and the next time your paths cross you'll be ready.
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